It can work really well
Not having children of their own doesn't mean someone isn't ready for a relationship with a parent.
Some people have always wanted a family, some love children but never had their own, and some are simply relaxed about it. What matters is that they understand what dating a parent involves, and that they're happy with it.
Be clear early on
Honesty now saves heartache later.
- Explain your time. Let them know when you're usually free, and that plans may sometimes change at short notice.
- Say that your children come first. It's not a test, just how things are.
- Talk about the future when it feels right. If things get serious, it's worth asking whether they'd want children of their own one day, and how they see their role with yours.
Signs they're on board
Look at how they respond to everyday family life.
- They're understanding when you have to cancel or move a date.
- They ask about your children in a friendly way, without pushing to meet them.
- They're happy to fit around your routine rather than expecting you to fit around theirs.
- They're patient about how fast things move.
Give them time to adjust
Family life can be a big change for someone who hasn't lived it. If things go well, let them build a relationship with your children gradually, and don't expect them to step into a parenting role straight away. Our guide on when to introduce a new partner to your children has more on taking that step.