There's no right time
Grief doesn't follow a timetable, and neither does being ready to meet someone new.
Some people feel ready sooner than they expected, others take years, and both are completely normal. Wanting company again doesn't mean you've stopped loving the person you lost. Many people find they can hold on to those memories and still make room for someone new.
Feelings you might have
Mixed emotions are part of the process.
- Guilt. It's common to feel as though you're being disloyal. Be kind to yourself.
- Nerves. If it's been many years since you dated, everything may feel unfamiliar. Take it one step at a time.
- Worry about what others think. Family and friends may have opinions. In the end, this is your decision.
Your children
They may still be grieving, in their own way and on their own timeline.
Children can find it hard to see a parent dating after a loss, and older children in particular may worry that someone new is replacing their mum or dad. Reassure them that nothing will change how much they're loved, or the place their parent has in your family. Keep dating separate from family life to begin with, and only introduce someone when you're both sure. Our guide on when to introduce a new partner to your children can help.
Being open with the people you meet
You don't have to share everything at once, but it helps to mention that you've lost a partner fairly early on. The right person will be understanding and patient, and will let you go at a pace that feels comfortable.
If grief feels overwhelming, it's worth talking to someone. Your GP can point you towards local support, and bereavement charities offer advice for both adults and children.